I'm a Lesbian and Just Had Sex With My Girlfriend! Am I a Virgin ?!?

Dear Couch,

I am a 23 year old lesbian. My girlfriend and I just had sex about a week ago, what I was wondering is.... Am I still a virgin? The technical definition only covers the hetero sexual way of having sex, so when people ask, what should I say? It is very confusing, when I went to the doctor the other day she asked if I was a virgin, so I said yes, was I wrong? PLEASE HELP!

Wondering in Maryland

Dear Alice in Maryland,

Hey! You're a lesbian! You've had sex with a woman! You're not a virgin. The point here is that your doctor was basically asking if you have been penetrated vaginally. In the future your response should be, " Doc. I'm a lesbo and not only have 'I kissed a girl' but I rode her face like a dime store horsey!" So just tell your nice doctor what your practices are and she will be better able to treat you. As to the question of what's a virgin, it's a personal choice.

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