My Fiancee Has to Hold Her Breath to Reach Orgasm?!?
My fiancee and I are wondering why it is that in order for her to reach orgasm she must hold her breath. Now we have heard about asphyxiation but we would like an explanation as to why she might must do this.
That's a good question Dan. You're a bit vague in your letter so we'll try to cover all the bases. The fact is people generally hold their breathe just before orgasm. Not in a conscious manner and not like a bratty kid throwing a temper tantrum! Go ahead Dan, try it yourself. If you're not already, take a moment to whack off and notice how your breathing changes just prior to orgasm. Why the hell do we do this? We don't know. But we bet it has something to do with pleasure. If your fianc� e is holding her breathe more than usual she may have a flavor of asphyxiophilia erotic suffocation.
As you describe it she seems to have a very mild tendency in this direction since she doesn't ask you to strangle her prior to orgasm. Erotic asphyxiation is a dangerous game and we whole heartedly recommend no one try this. If for no other reason, how stupid would you feel having people muttering to each other during your funeral that you died butt naked, doggy style, with a plastic bag over your head?! Even worse are the poor imbeciles that die during auto-erotic asphyxiation. In fact, a case study that got us into this area was a guy found naked, covered in dried mud, with a corn cob up his ass, and a cord wrapped around his neck tied four feet up from the ground. He passed out while yanking it on his knees and fell away from the fence keeping the cord taught and killing him. His family, like many others, are more than willing to call it a suicide than a flubbed asphyxiation jerk off!
If your fiancee leans in this erotic breath holding direction, it sounds like she is practicing safe breath control play during your love making bouts. Once again we have to repeat this warning/disclaimer for the thick heads out there. Erotic asphyxiation is dangerous. Any form of blocking breathing during sex or otherwise is dangerous and stupid, so don't do it! For an interesting book about one man's triumph over the unusual compulsion of asphyxiophilia, try the book The Breathless Orgasm: A Lovemap Biography of Asphyxiophilia.