My Boyfriend Has Recently Expressed His Foot Fetish! How Do I Deal With This?!?

My Boyfriend Has Recently Expressed His Foot Fetish! How Do I Deal With This?!?
2/5/2000

Dear Couch,

My boyfriend of one year whom I live with and have discussed sharing a future together has a severe foot fetish and panty hose obsession. In the beginning I supported his fantasies but it has escalated to constant cravings to the point of being the only thing he desires sexually. I have become withdrawn sexually and feel objectified. My sex drive has all but diminished, which disturbs me because we once shared an intimate and healthy sex life. Can you help or give me some advice about my situation and how to deal with the fetish?

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Dear Hot feet,

Luckily for you we happen to have an acquaintance who is intimately familiar with the concept of foot worship so we have invited them to offer their experience to your question as follows:

Dear Withdrawn:

The beauty of sexuality is that it is a growing, learning, evolving cache of enriching experiences. You will, of course, need to speak frankly with your boyfriend about the situation. He is probably aware that all is not 100 with your mutual sex life, and is most likely open to ideas that can give you greater satisfaction.

I suggest this - tell him that you'd like to make a " deal" . Point out, that, like himself, there are elements of your own sexuality that you'd like to explore with him. Pick one such element that is a turn-on for you that you two have yet to try out - be it lingerie, toys, dominance and submission fantasies whatever it may be for you.

Tell him that you'd like for him to explain the intricacies of his foot desires to you, so that you can more fully understand and appreciate his desires. In exchange, you'd like to explore your fantasy of choice similarly with him. Take your time to explore this fully with him - this may go on for days or even weeks. The end result should be, at very least, a better understanding of your mutual sexuality, and at best, a start towards broadening your sex play into ever greater variety. Do what you can to work towards that goal - doubtless your boyfriend will gain a greater understanding.

Bear in mind this could be an eye-opening experience for you. Perhaps I'm the wrong person to ask, but I believe there's tremendous sexual power in the female foot. You might enjoy it more than you know!

Sincerely,
Ki@baresoles.com

So you see Hot Feet. Your guy finds your feet as sexy as your breasts, and if you think of it that way you shouldn't feel objectified. Also, as Ki suggests, take this opportunity to offer some unexplored yet desired area of your own sexuality. Like Ki says, sensuality is much more than textbook vanilla sex so take this opening to try new things.

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