My Husband Says He Has Been With Women That Ejaculate During Sex! Can I Learn That?!?
I'm wondering if you can tell me if women actually secrete fluids with orgasm like a man does? My husband tells me that he has been with a woman who did and asks me why I don't. Is there something to do that can enable women to do this?
Can you lead me to where I can find more information about Female Ejaculation? My girlfriend and I have heard allot about this subject is it for real? Can any woman achieve this? Please help?
Wanting to Squirt
Dear Ejaculation Envy,
Yes, female ejaculation appears to be a real thing, however not a common one. Women who do this are often referred to as 'squirters'. The medical community generally boo-hoos it, instead placing the liquid blame on orgasmic incontinence: pee. The thing that leads ejaculating females away from that definition is that the fluid is clear and odorless. Some researchers have through analysis determined this fluid to be chemically distinct from urine but there just isn't a plethora of hard science research on this topic.
The physiological process behind female ejaculation goes something like this. The urethral sponge (G-spot), is rubbed during sexual intercourse or direct finger stimulation causing it to become slightly swollen with blood. The paraurethral gland absorbs fluid from this blood and upon orgasm (for some women) excretes it out the urethra. Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century: A Book by and for Women does a great job of explaining this mystery in greater detail as well as many other aspects of being a woman.
Both of you express a desire to 'learn' the ability to ejaculate. As far as we can tell, female ejaculation is more of a genetic quality than a behavioral one. For those of you already dealing with an urge to urinate as you approach orgasm, let go! You may be one of those lucky(?) females prone to orgasmic ejaculation. To get a handle on your ejaculatory ability, spend some love making sessions in which your partner focuses on your g-spot during oral sex (urinate first). That would be a tongue on the clit and a finger on the G-spot. If you do feel an urge to urinate during this exercise, you may be able to ejaculate with orgasm. For help on finding that Grafenberg-spot and more info on female ejaculation try Nina Hartley's videos, Guide To Female Ejaculation and Guide To G-Spot Sex. And for a little mechanical help try the G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator.
But most of all don't get obsessed with this because you'll annoy the hell out of your partner and just frustrate yourself. Fact is, just like some people have green eyes and are left handed, some women ejaculate during orgasm. If you don't, be happy you orgasm in the first place and tell your hubby to get over it.