I've Been Releasing a Clear Fluid Upon Orgasm! What Is This and Where Does it Come From?!?

Dear Couch,

I am a 30 year old female and I enjoy a fantastic sex life. My situation is this: For approximately the last three years, I've been prone to ' ejaculatory' orgasms (I don't know what else to call them) when my clitoris is stimulated in just about any way. The pressure that builds inside me is incredible and after several eruptions of the clear fluid, the bed becomes literally soaked. I find it thrilling and exciting and so do my lovers. Now for the questions: Why does this happen? Where does this fluid come from? Do many women experience this (perhaps this isn't unique at all!)? FYI, the receipt of this ' gift' came shortly after the birth of my daughter. Thanks for your response!

-Curious Old Faithful

Dear Squirty,

Female ejaculation has only recently been explored as something other than orgasmic urinary incontinence and it is hotly debated. Even the Liberated Christians have an opinion about it. The two camps seem to break down into ' We're doctors and scientists and never wrong and it comes out of the urethra so it's just pee you silly twits!' versus 'We're women and we can come spurts just like men and you just want to keep oppressing us by telling us this is just pissing you sexist nazi bastards!' As far as we're concerned, if you have great orgasms while squirting fluid all over the place then more power to you.

We can tell you the theory behind female ejaculation and you can make up your own mind. The fluid that bursts forth from a woman having an ejaculation is supposedly the result of the urethral sponge, or G-spot, being stimulated which causes it to fill with blood. The paraurethral gland absorbs fluids from this blood which ejaculates, in SOME WOMEN upon orgasm. Or something like that. We know the paraurethral gland can't hold the amount of fluid it would take to soak sheets, so a large amount of this fluid must be urine. We have read estimates that as many as 1 in 5 women have ejaculatory orgasms but we find that to be pretty high.

You mention that this ' gift' began shortly after the birth of your daughter. Weakened pelvic floor muscles are often the result of pregnancy which can lead to urinary incontinence. Not while riding the bus in your case but maybe while having a raging orgasm. You should start doing Kegel exercises just to make sure. They're free, have no side effects and women in general should learn to do them to avoid being on a diaper commercial in later life. And to help you with them try the Energie Kegel Exerciser from Natural Contours designed by women for women and gaining positive reviews from many sexologists.

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