My Girlfriend has Begun " Ejaculating" During Finger and Oral Stimulation but I Think It's Urine!?

Dear Couch,

My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for about 4 months now. Just in the past month though (this has never happened before), she has begun ' ejaculating' during finger and oral stimulation. The problem is that it does not happen during orgasm nor does it occur during vaginal stimulation, only clitoral. My concern is that it is not in fact ' ejaculate' but instead urine. I believe this because it is a yellowish fluid, smells like urine, and tastes terribly bitter. She claims that it doesn't feel like she's urinating at all. I have heard that there can be something called a urinary leak during intercourse and I was just curious if such a thing does exist and how we it can be fixed?


Dear Puddle Face,

There's an old saying, ' If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and smells like a duck then get your willy out of that Jethro! It's a duck!' , or something like that. The topic of 'female ejaculation' is hotly debated with some calling it urination and others calling it something completely different. Even the Liberated Christians have a strong opinion on it. The theory goes that stimulation of the urethral sponge, or G-Spot, causes the paraurethrall gland to fill with fluid which for some women squirts out the urethra upon orgasm. There are still those that insist there is no such process going on and it's just pee. The writers of Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century: A Book by and for Women go into this subject in great detail. We've never had the pleasure of seeing or smelling this fluid so we're just going to ride the fence on it.

You however have to make a decision. You find this fluid offensive during oral copulation so you may not have that as an option if you choose to remain in this relationship. If you really feel this is incontinence we suggest you ask your girlfriend to begin daily Kegel exercises. This is an easy exercise that can be done while sitting at a desk. It's simply flexing the same muscles that a women would when she stops her urine stream. An added benefit is a stronger vaginal grip during intercourse! And to help you with them try the Energie Kegel Exerciser from Natural Contours designed by women for women and gaining positive reviews from many sexologists.

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